Unapologetic permission to be our truest selves, honor what we value and need, to say no (and yes) as we see fit, to use our voices and tell our stories is always inherently within us. If you’re breathing, that’s proof you already have permission to unapologetically be uniquely you.
I have found though that at times other people can bring powerful invitations illuminating the permissions slips that already have our names on them.
Since ending my marriage I’ve been very open about sharing my own experience. Since the day my ex left I’ve never shied away from speaking about my own personal experience through and beyond divorce.
In sharing my own story I’ve been stunned at how many others have navigated divorce, are in miserable marriages, or are navigating separation and divorce. Time after time, my own sharing provided an invitation for others to share their own stories. Illuminating the unapologetic permission to share freely in a safe space.
I’ve also been on the receiving end of such permission illumination. My closest people have full security clearance to confront and challenge me. There have been many conversations including their sometimes gentle and other times relentless “encouragement” to own my natural gifts.
Everything from my denial of leadership ability, speaking and communication talents, writing, connection and relationships, intuition, perspective, humor, listening ability, empathy. If I attempted to deny or diminish it, I’ve been called out for doing so.
Awareness that I’m the only one holding myself back can sting but at some point we each have to choose to shine OR live with the awareness that we already have permission and any excuses are just resistance.
Unapologetic permission to be our truest selves is liberating but that can also be terrifying.
There’s a quote from Marianne Williamson that I swear haunts me (in a good way) this is part of it:
“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”
It takes courage to shine. It takes strength to move beyond the fears, doubts, insecurities, worries and hang ups each of us has.
Embracing the inherent permission each of us already has to shine brightly, perhaps more than ever before is scary. But it’s also so damn worth it and can indeed feel fun, light, expansive and maybe most of all true and genuine.
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